DON’T YOU DARE….
Don’t you dare say happiness is a choice. Do you honestly think we want to be like this? Do you think we choose to be depressed? If you think someone chooses to be depressed you are ignorant. If I could just choose to be happy, I would. But that’s not how depression works.
Don’t you dare say suicide is selfish. What is selfish is saying it’s selfish. People don’t commit suicide to die, they commit suicide to escape the misery and depression. They are not selfish for feeling like suicide is the only option.
Don’t you dare tell someone to “Get over it.” Again, that’s not how depression works. Depression is a chemical imbalance in the brain. Would you tell someone with diabetes to “get over it?” Hell no you wouldn’t. Depression is a MEDICAL CONDITION and not a choice. There is no way to just “get over” a problem that is rooted in your brain.
Don’t you dare blame yourself for someone else’s suicide. You are not the reason. Like I said before, it’s a medical condition. Don’t put yourself in that position, because there’s nothing you can do about it now.
Don’t you dare pretend this doesn’t happen. This happens everywhere. Every 40 seconds someone commits suicide. Why are people so ignorant to this? Why don’t people understand this is real. This is here. This is all around you.
Don’t you dare turn a blind eye to someone who is struggling. The worst thing you can do is pretend you don’t see it. If you even have a suspicion someone is struggling. GET THEM HELP.
Don’t you dare listen to someone when they say there are fine, when you know for a fact they aren’t. They are just telling you they are okay. They really aren’t. They don’t want to be a burden or make you worry. But they need help, they are begging for help just not with words.
Don’t you dare make fun of someone’s coping methods. Some people sleep, like me. When I’m upset, I sleep to escape the feeling. Let them do it. If it helps, it’s worth it. The only time to worry is if they are harming themselves in some way, then you have to take action.
Don’t you dare take suicidal thoughts lightly. If you or someone around you is showing symptoms of suicidal thoughts, get. them. help. I will say it again, GET THEM HELP.
Don’t you dare think the world will be a better place without you. The sun will still shine, and the world will continue to spin, but it will never be the same without you. Think about your family, your friends, your classmates, your teachers, anyone. You are not alone.
Don’t you dare think you are alone. You are never alone. Other people are struggling, and there is help out there for you. Someone will help you. Someone will talk to you. Someone will understand. Someone will be there for you. Please remember, you are not alone.
Don’t you dare think suicide is the only option. It’s not. There are ways to get past this. There are resources. There are people. There are so many other options. Please, don’t end your life. This will get better.
Don’t ever think you are weak. Or taking medicine isn’t okay. MEDICINE HAS SAVED MY LIFE. I hate that therapists try to fix people without medicine, when medicine will help. Sure, you can come off of it eventually, but it could save your life. Someone with a heart condition takes medicine to save their life, and the same idea applies to you. If it saves your life, never feel wrong for taking it.
Don’t you dare isolate yourself. And believe me, this is HARD. I struggle with this, too. You want to be alone, and stay by yourself, but that’s not what to do. You have to surround yourself with people. People who care. People who will hug you when you need it, and who will do anything to help you. There are SO many people who will do this for you, you just have to be willing to do it. Do not push them away, you need help and that’s okay.
Don’t you dare think this is a phase that will go away on its own. If this has been going on for a while, it’s not going to get better on its own. If anything, it could get worse. There are resources everywhere. Reaching out is the hardest part. Hands down. But it could turn your life around completely. You can’t do this alone, and that’s alright. It’s okay to need someone to lean on.
I want nothing more than for people to realize this is real. This isn’t something that just happens in books or something you see on TV. This has happened TWICE at my school since August. Seeing all people here distraught and bawling is horrible. Seeing teachers break down in class is unforgettable. Being at a candlelight vigil is not where I wanted to be on a Thursday night, but I wouldn’t have missed it for the world. I hope he was looking down at all those people there, and seeing who cared. So many care. Kyle and Katie are finally at peace, and happy.
I hope this opened your eyes. I hope this shed some light on this issue. This IS an issue. This is a problem. This is an epidemic. This is happening all around us. Please, help me spread the word. Don’t you dare ignore the facts. Don’t you dare fail to educate others. It could SAVE SOMEONE’S LIFE.
Until next time,